Co-Parenting in the New York Times

Dawn Pieke and Fabian Blue both wanted to be parents.  In 2011, neither of them knew that the other existed.  Dawn lived in Omaha, Nebraska and Fabian lived in Melbourne, Australia.  They first met through a Facebook page for the site Co-parents.net.  They talked through Facebook and Skype and forged a connection.  Eventually, Fabian decided to move from Melbourne to Omaha so that he and Dawn could have a child together.  The catch?  They were not looking for a romantic relationship with one another, but looking for someone to share a child with.

Dawn and Fabian are among many couples who are using the internet as a way of finding people who, like them, want to be parents but are not looking for a romantic relationship.  The New York Times reported last week that more and more people are looking to the internet to find someone with whom to share a child.  Sites such as PollenTree.com, Coparents.com, Modamily.com, and MyAlternativeFamily.com are becoming more popular as people seek a person who is looking for the opportunity to have a child without starting a romantic relationship. 

The laws around co-parenting agreements vary from state to state, so it is important to be aware of the laws as well as any court cases that may affect such agreements.  The Family Formation Law Center offers services to co-parents including drafting parenting agreements, developing parenting plans, mediating issues that arise during disagreements and advising regarding egg and sperm donation as it pertains to co-parenting.  If you have questions or would like to schedule a consultation, please contact Rose@FamilyFormationLawCenter.com or 310-598-6428.

For the full text of the article, visit http://www.nytimes.com/2013/02/10/fashion/seeking-to-reproduce-without-a-romantic-partnership.html?pagewanted=all&_r=2&.

Estate Planning Checklist for Every Family

Estate Planning Checklist

Care for your family by making a will, setting up a trust, creating a power of attorney, a health care directive, funeral arrangements and more.

  • Make a will.  In a will, you state who you want to inherit your property, and name a guardian to care for your young children should something happen to you.
  • Consider a trust.  If you hold your property in trust, your survivors won't have to go through probate court, a time-consuming and expensive process.
  • Make an advance health care directive.  Also called a "living will" this document lets your physician, family and friends know your health care preferences, including the types of special treatment you want or don't want at the end of your life, your desire for diagnostic testing, surgical procedures, cardiopulmonary resuscitation and organ donation.  By considering your options early, you can ensure the quality of life that is important to you and avoid having your family guess your wishes or having to make critical medical care decisions for you under stress or turmoil. 
  • Make a financial power of attorney.  With a durable power of attorney for finances, you can give a trusted person authority to handle your finances and property if you become incapacitated and unable to handle your own affairs.  The person you name to handle your finances is called your agent or attorney-in-fact (but it doesn't have to be an attorney).
  • Protect your children's property.  You should name an adult to manage any money and property your childdren may inherit from you.  This can be the same person as the personal guardian you name in your will. 
  • File beneficiary forms.  Naming a beneficiary for bank accounts and retirement plans makes the account automatically "payable on death" to your beneficiary and allows the funds to skip the probate process. 
  • Consider life insurance.  If you have young children or own a house, or you may owe significant debts or estate taxes when you die, life insurance is a good idea.

The Family Formation Law Center assists families of every age and size in creating an estate plan that protects their property and cares for their loved ones.  Please call 310.598.6428 for a consultation or email Info@FamilyFormationLawCenter.com